How to Help a Loved One Who Is Suicidal: A Simple Guide
Supporting someone who is feeling suicidal can be difficult and emotional. Here’s a straightforward guide to help you provide the support they need:
1. Take Suicide Seriously
Listen Carefully: Show that you care by listening without judging. Make sure they feel heard and understood.
Act Quickly: If they talk about suicide, take it seriously and act immediately to ensure their safety.
2. Encourage Getting Professional Help
Suggest Therapy: Encourage them to see a mental health professional. Offer to help find a therapist and go with them if needed.
Share Crisis Resources: Provide them with contact information for crisis support:
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org
Santa Clara County Crisis Line: 1-855-278-4204
Text RENEW to 741741 for immediate help
The Trevor Project (for LGBTQIA+): The Trevor Project
3. Make a Safety Plan
Identify Triggers: Help them figure out what might make their feelings worse.
Create Coping Strategies: Work together on activities that can help them feel better, like hobbies or talking to friends.
Emergency Contacts: Make sure they have a list of people to call if they need help right away.
4. Remove Dangerous Items
Secure the Environment: If possible, remove or lock up things that could be used for self-harm, like medications or sharp objects.
Keep Emergency Info Handy: Ensure they have quick access to emergency contacts and crisis support numbers.
5. Stay in Touch
Regular Check-ins: Keep in touch through calls, texts, or visits to provide ongoing support.
Be There: Let them know you’re always available and that you care about their well-being.
6. Encourage Healthy Living
Support Self-Care: Encourage them to take care of themselves with exercise, healthy eating, and enough sleep.
Suggest Fun Activities: Invite them to do things they enjoy to help lift their mood.
7. Learn About Suicide
Educate Yourself: Understand the signs and risk factors for suicidal thoughts. This knowledge can help you offer better support.
Use Supportive Language: Talk about mental health in a positive and accepting way to create a supportive environment.
8. Take Care of Yourself
Self-Care: Supporting someone who is suicidal can be tough. Make sure to look after your own mental health.
Get Your Own Help: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, consider speaking with a counselor or therapist for support.
9. Know When to Seek Immediate Help
Emergency Help: If your loved one is in immediate danger, call emergency services (911) or take them to the emergency room.
Crisis Hotlines: Encourage them to use crisis hotlines if they need urgent help.
10. Be Patient
Ongoing Support: Recovery can take time. Keep offering your support, even if progress is slow.
By following these steps, you can provide crucial support to a loved one dealing with suicidal thoughts. Your care and support can make a big difference in their path to recovery.
Dr. Lisa Torres, LMFT
